7 Tips to Survive Mother’s Day Without Your Mom
Mother’s Day can be such a wonderful day. However, I think we need to stop for a moment and think about the ones that don’t have a Mom to celebrate Mother’s Day with. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be for the ones that don’t have a Mom on a day that is all about celebrating MOM. I decided to come up with 7 tips to survive Mother’s Day without your Mom.
1. Step Away From Social Media
This tip comes down to personal preference. If you don’t want to constantly be reminded what day it is, I recommend avoiding social media. Everywhere you look on social media will be filled with pictures, quotes, and personal stories about moms. Keep this in mind and do what you need to do for you.
2. Don’t Set High Expectations
Be aware that your feelings will probably be all over the place and that is completely ok. Don’t set your expectations for the day too high. Allow yourself to be flexible and go with whatever you need to get through the day.
3. Carry On Traditions
I know that traditions are extremely important in my family and my grandmother that passed in 2012 would want my mother and me to carry on those traditions. Let their legacies live on. If you and your mom ate at a certain place for brunch or went to a movie together every Mother’s Day then at least think about carrying on that tradition.
4. Remember Your Mom
This will look different for everyone. I think it is important to remember your Mom on this difficult day. Do you have things that were left unsaid? Maybe you could try writing her a note. I like the idea of taking the note, tying it to a balloon, and setting the balloon free. Visit her gravesite if that is something that feels comforting to you. Take her flowers and sit and talk for a while. If your mom loved a certain charity or if she passed from a certain disease, you could donate to a charity in her name, her honor.
If you have siblings, get together and have a celebration for your Mom. Your siblings are going to know exactly how you are feeling and you might find that comforting.
5. Reach Out and Talk About Her
Do not be afraid to reach out to friends and loved ones. In fact, it might be helpful to reach out to those that loved and adored your mom too. You could sit down, have a cup of tea, and talk about your mom. Sharing memories about your loved one might really be beneficial.
It is always nice to be reminded that others miss your Mom too and have fond memories of her.
6. Celebrate Yourself Too
If you are a mom, remember this is your day too. It doesn’t have to be a day full of loss and grief. Remind yourself that you deserve to be celebrated for all that you do. I know that when I am having a rough day, my boys are such a joy for me to be around. They always put a smile on my face.
7. Be Easy On Yourself and Be Self-Aware
Don’t be so hard on yourself. It is ok to admit that you are having difficulties and it is completely understandable to be beyond sad on Mother’s Day.
If what you are feeling is worse than “having a rough day” do not keep to yourself. Be self-aware and ask for help when you need it. Here is a site that can help you find a support group in your area.
I just want to extend my thoughts and prayers to everyone out there that is hurting this Mother’s Day (every Mother’s Day). I am so sorry for your loss and I know these tips aren’t some magical solution to end your pain. Honestly, you are going to have to find what works for you. Take care of yourself, because that is one thing I know for sure. Your mom would want you to be happy and smile.
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“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31
Pacemakər Blog says
Thank you for writing these words. This year is going to be the first Mother’s Day without my mama (grandmother) and I know it’s going to be hard. Her birthday was hard. Christmas was hard. Life is hard without her.
I am so sorry, my friend. I wish I had the words that could take away your pain and make it easier. I do know that she must have been an amazing woman to raise such a kind, talented soul like you. Much love, my friend. If you need anything, just ask.
Jennifer Carfora says
These are definitely useful tips, I haven’t lost a loved one but I know that staying away from social media is a must on that day. It would be difficult to see everyone with their moms/families—great job Lana, as always!!!
Thanks, girl! 🙂 I haven’t lost my Mom yet. Thank goodness, however, I have friends and family members that have and I see how hard it is for them.
Sheila Yale says
Such a great post! I can’t even think of losing my mom without crying but like you I pray for all the people who are missing their moms. My husband just reminded me that we lost his mother 2 years ago today. He is very sad.
I am so sorry for his loss. He is in my thoughts. So close to Mothers Day. It can’t be easy. <3
This will be my frist Mother’s day without my mom. It is also my birthday I want to sleep the day away.
I am so sorry for your loss. This year will be the first Father’s Day without my Daddy. He passed away 2 days after Father’s Day last year and 9 days after my birthday. I know it will be tough. Hang in there. You are in my thoughts and prayers.