I believe that we need to focus on loving ourselves first, instead of loving the idea of others loving us. We put so much more stock into the love of others that we often don’t realize the importance and power of loving ourselves. However, I am not naive enough to think that you can just flip a switch and love yourself overnight. I also know, from personal experience, it isn’t always easy to love yourself. In honor of February, the month of love, I decided to focus more attention on loving myself. Well, how do I do this? Where should I start? Let’s do this together! Here are 11 tips to help you love yourself.
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” -Andre Gide
11 Tips To Help You Love Yourself
List What You Love About Yourself
Sounds simple enough, right? I’ll be honest this was a little more difficult for me than I thought it would be. Look at yourself in the mirror because this is often what we see in the world. Our disappointment in others often reflects our disappointment in ourselves. So I believe that if we start seeing the good in ourselves, maybe we will start seeing a little more good in the world. It all has to do with our outlook. If we are overly critical of ourselves, more than likely we will be overly critical of others. Here is some of my list. I hope this inspires you to sit down and make your own.
- good mother
- put others first
- red hair
- green eyes
You won’t always be where you want to be in life or have what you want all the time. Remember that there are others out there that might never have what you have, even in these moments where you don’t feel like you have enough. I also try to remind myself that I prayed for what I have now, even on the day it seems too tough. You are in control of how you look at yourself and life, in general. Show gratitude for yourself and it will be easier to show gratitude for others.
Do Something Everyday To Make You Smile
Life is short. Love yourself enough to do something every day that makes you smile. A happy person tends to love themselves more than an unhappy person. If you love yourself, you want to be happy. You know that you deserve happiness. This doesn’t have to be a huge task. In fact, it can be really small as long as it makes you smile. For example, I look forward to my coffee every morning. It makes me smile. I treat myself by buying flavored coffee and flavored creamer. I have my own coffee bar and it makes me smile (and it is cheaper than Starbucks!) So added bonus, it makes my husband smile too! Hahaha! Find something that makes you smile and do it every day!
Accept What Is
A lot of times, our idea of perfect or our idea of happiness can get in the way of loving ourselves and finding true happiness. Once you realize that you need to process your life with what is, and not with what you think life should be your day to day life will become much easier. Life might not be what you had planned, but you are alive. Accept the truth and it will be much easier for you to work towards the possible.
Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Winning Love/Approval Of Others
This can sometimes be difficult, especially when you just want people to like you or make new friends. I won’t lie this one was hard for me when I first became a mom because it was so hard for me to make mom friends. I found myself acting differently around other moms and one day I got tired of it. What good are friends if they don’t like the real you?
You can not truly love yourself until you forgive yourself. We aren’t perfect. We make mistakes and bad choices, but that doesn’t make us bad. The past is over, don’t let it continue to affect your future. Let go and move on, this will be the start of loving yourself.
Take Time For Self-Care
This one is huge and can be so difficult for some people, especially moms. As a mom, I often put my needs on hold. I don’t regret that. I would do anything for my family. However, last year I came to a harsh realization. Because I hadn’t been taking the time to take care of myself, my anxiety reached an extremely unhealthy level. You have to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family. You can read my post about self-care tips for moms here.
Distance Yourself From The Negative
If you are surrounded by negative people, it is easy to allow negativity to control your thoughts and mind. The people you surround yourself with should motivate, inspire and respect you.
Take Time To Meditate And Journal.
Prayer, meditation, and journaling are so important in my daily life. This goes hand in hand with self-care for me. Do whatever keeps you centered and focused on the importance of life.
Be Patient And Talk Yourself Happy
Talk sweetly to yourself. Whatever you think is what you will be. Do you believe you are a good person? Do you believe you are worthy? Tell yourself these things and I promise you that it will make you feel so much better.
My Personal Belief
Realize you are loved by someone that is greater than any one of this world. You are the child of God. He loved you before you were even conceived. He knew you and He has plans for you.
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” -L. Hay
I hope these 11 tips to help you love yourself jump starts your journey of self-love. Remember you are worthy. I wish you all the best on this journey.
For more love and fun inspiration, check out:
7 Affordable Ways To Say “I Love You”
11 Things Your Spouse Needs To Hear
8 Stay At Home Valentine’s Date Ideas For Parents
“But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31
Planet Mummy says
Such a beautiful read, it’s so easy to forget about loving yourself and this is so important. ❤️
I agree! I am so glad you enjoyed reading! Thanks for commenting!
These are all great reminders especially #’s 3, 6 & 8. And we should never feel guilty about loving ourselves nor practicing self-care. We aren’t any good to and for others if we aren’t good to and for ourselves first!
Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it! I learned that the hard way last year! I have to take care of myself too!
Peachy & Clementine says
These are some really good tips. Sometimes it’s easier to love others than it is to love ourselves. It’s certainly easy to take ourselves for granted. I enjoyed co hosting #CKACOLS with you. I’m sure I’ll see you around.
Thank you! I enjoyed co-hosting with you too!
Thank you!! I really enjoyed co-hosting with you too! 🙂
Rosie Doal says
It’s s important we love ourselves. How can we love others and give the best of ourselves to our loved ones if we’re not feeling our best? #KCACOLS.
Sheila Yale says
These are great tips. Thanks for reminding us all to see ourselves as the Father does. #KCACOLS
bread // queer little family says
I stopped caring what people thought of me sometimes in my twenties, best thing I ever did. #kcacols
Yes! I agree! 🙂
Jo (A Rose Tinted World) says
Some great tips here. Number one is my favourite, and to find things you love about yourself that are not the physical things works for me. #KCACOLS
Thank you. I am so glad you enjoyed it.
Mainy - myrealfairy says
Learning to forgive yourself is such a big one and one that we all need to remember. I’ve spent far too long mulling over things I’ve done or shouldn’t of done and really sometimes I just need to move on and keep living. Good post to give us all a bit of a shake up, thank you:)
Thank ou. I am so glad you enjoyed this!
Jennifer Cannon says
First off, let me say that your blog is just beautiful.
This post is amazing on every level and I love that you have some tips in there that are unusual and I will be giving them a try.
Thank you for your kind words. That means so much to me because I do try really hard to make this something special. I am so glad you found some tips in this post that you want to try. Have a great Wednesday!
Mummy & the Mexicans (@ruthhilbrown) says
I need to do all of these things! Thanks for such an inspiring post. #kcacols
Thank you! I am so glad you enjoyed it.
Tracey Bowden says
I loved reading this, it so easy to forget some of these things. I am trying to put some of these into practise this year #kcacols
Thank you! I am so glad you enjoyed it!
AliDuke (@weirdoA) says
Self care is something I definitely need to do more of. Like you said, us mum’s spend so much time looking after everyone else we forget about ourselves at times.
So true! I know I do that! Thanks for commenting!
Redemptions Touch says
I really enjoyed this post! Taking care of yourself is so important.
I love the one about accepting what is. I think that we sometimes get caught up in our own expectations and we lose sight of the blessings that are there.
I completely agree! We get caught up in the fairy tale. Thank you for commenting!
All good points worth remembering! #KCACOLS
Jennifer Carfora says
Lana, these are all useful tips. My biggest one I need to work on is “let it be” or “accept it.” I had an incident Thursday that I wish I could go back to and erase but it is what it is. Taught me to ignore people like that — which I did yesterday and she shut right up lol.
That’s awesome! It isn’t always easy, I know.
What a beautiful post. Loving oneself and being able to forgive oneself should be the easiest to do but can be much difficult than one can imagine.
Thank you. I am so glad you enjoyed it.